In most cities we’ve seen offices, entertainment, and schools reopen. Some people are struggling with anxiety about re-entering. There may be increased anxiety about socializing in person, feeling scrutinized by others or feeling self-conscious. For other people it may feel or be risky to engage in-person due to health concerns. Here are a few points…
Read More**Important book for parents with children who suffer from OCD and Anxiety** If you have not heard of Dr. Eli Lebowitz and the SPACE program, today is your day. I am not associated with this book, but have found the SPACE program to be groundbreaking in helping parents. Many of you have loved…
Read MoreAnxious, anxiety, worry, nervous, stress. People use these terms often and may not realize that an anxiety disorder does not feel the same as the unease that most people experience occasionally. If you have an anxiety disorder you know that you are not having occasional nagging worries. If you are anxious, it’s not…
Read MoreI was a graduate student when I first heard Kristin Neff (pioneer in the field of self-compassion) speak. I remember being blown away by this concept of being kind towards yourself. As a student I had a crazy schedule, juggling two labs, three clinical sites, a dissertation, and classes. I felt the need to always…
Read MoreKids listen. They hear things and interpret things in ways we may not as adults. This week my sweet son let me know he was not opening his stocking on Christmas. I waited until he felt like telling me why and it came out that he was afraid that Santa was going to give…
Read MoreWe have anywhere from 50,000-80000 thoughts in a day. That is way too many thoughts to keep track of. So many of our thoughts pass through without us noticing. But we cannot believe every thought we have. There are so many untrue thoughts or unhelpful thoughts that we accept because we just…
Read MoreWeb MD, healthline, mayoclinic and other sites like these can be helpful in deciding when to visit a doctor or deciding treatment for mild concerns. If you have anxiety though, you may experience panic and fear when googled symptoms are ‘consistent’ with severe illnesses. You can spend hours on the internet convinced that…
Read MoreIf you struggle with anxiety, the holiday season can be a time of high stress. There are gifts to buy, decorations to hang, traditions to follow, and people to please. This can lead to worries and tension about doing things ‘right’. This desire to do things ‘right’ is mentally and physically exhausting. …
Read MoreNot all thoughts are positive and that’s okay. A mistake people make when they try to challenge thoughts is to just think rosy positive thoughts. “I’ll do perfectly on my presentation” “I’ll be totally fine while driving” “Today is going to be the best day ever” While some people enjoy mantras or manifesting good things…
Read MoreA lot of metaphors around anxiety use water. Waves, rivers, ocean currents, rainstorms… When we talk about these natural elements, we can understand the lack of control. Most people have heard stories about fighting against ocean currents and the need to swim parallel. Many people have ridden down a river and…
Read MoreI get the question often about whether a person’s anxiety is “bad enough” to seek treatment. Even if it is mild, it is worth treating! You are worth treating! It can be hard to dedicate time to mental health, but it may be a time saver in the future.…
Read MoreHere is a story to give you a sense of the intensity of flight/flight. We were living in a two-story town home with a large sliding glass door that opened into a common grassy area. It’s around 3am. Pitch black. My partner and I are both asleep upstairs. We hear…
Read MoreHave you ever had that friend who constantly asks to borrow things, asks for a ride, asks for cash, asks for a favor, but they never reciprocate? If you keep saying ‘yes’, you end up feeling used, frustrated, and exhausted. Anxiety is a taker. And the way to break out is by saying…
Read MoreImagine you fall into a river. More than anything you want to get back out at the same point you fell in. So you’re fighting, you’re going against the current, you’re getting hit by sticks and scraping your body on rocks, all to get out where fell in. But you have…
Read MoreThere is not always a direct trigger for our feelings. And sometimes the endless search for a “reason” behind a feeling turns into a hyper focus on our feelings. That can even make it feel bigger. Sometimes there isn’t a reason. Feelings come and go. The goal isn’t to dissect every feeling that…
Read MoreA few months ago I made a medical decision that led to a negative outcome for one of my kids. It was not life-threatening, but my anxiety clung onto the thought and intensified it. I had a several hour period where I felt incapacitated by worry. My thoughts were racing and seeking out horrible (unrealistic)…
Read MorePanic disorder and agoraphobia are associated with very strong physical and emotional experiences. If you have had a panic attack in the past, you know how overwhelming the sensations can feel. I recently read the fictional book All the Light We Cannot See by Anthony Doerr and was gripped by this powerful description of a…
Read MoreIf someone falls and gets a cut, you may get them a band aid . If someone has a headache, you may get them medicine. If someone has a sunburn, you may get them aloe vera. When we see people experiencing some sort of distress, the normal and natural response is to do something to…
Read MoreAt our office, your first appointment will involve an in-depth intake session where we’ll go over various symptoms you experience. After reviewing the material, your psychologist will have formulated a diagnosis that fits your symptoms in the current moment. Why do we do this? Isn’t a diagnosis just a label? Does it really matter? When…
Read MoreDr. Hsia will be speaking at the 2018 Anxiety and Depression Conference in Washington D.C. This is an annual conference hosted by the Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) and is focused on the integration of research and practice. Dr. Hsia will be participating in a round table discussion regarding the “Paradoxical Impact of…
Read MoreDoes your son or daughter have an anxiety disorder? Usually if this is the case, their anxiety may affect their experiences in school. The question then becomes, how can the school and I work together to help my child? Talk to the Teacher The first steps most parents take is to talk to their child’s…
Read MoreIt is normal to feel a wide array of emotions: scared, happy, nervous, sad, disappointed, mad. As empathetic human beings, a helpful goal is to meet people in their emotional experience rather than try to take away what they’re feeling. A developmental theorist, Robert Kegan, wrote about how parents have the opportunity to respond to…
Read MoreThe OCD Southern California Conference is coming up on Saturday March 24th. Dr. Hsia and Dr. Davis will be participating in a panel about various subtypes of OCD. They will be focusing on scrupulosity, a form of OCD where individuals are afraid they’ve done things that are immoral or offensive, usually as it relates to God, salvation,…
Read MoreIf you have interest in learning about how anxiety affects adolescents, you’re invited to attend the screening of a new documentary “Angst” Raising Awareness Around Anxiety“. After viewing the movie you’ll be invited to stay and ask questions to a panel of anxiety experts from the Orange County area, including Dr. Curtis Hsia. Date: Monday…
Read MoreAre you interested in learning more about OCD either for yourself or for a family member? You may be interested in attending the OCD Southern California Annual Conference. This conference is unique because it was developed both for professionals and for those affected by OCD. It’s a wonderful chance to get questions answered and learn…
Read MoreIn a previous post we talked about learning to tolerate strong physical sensations. When we have a strong sensation it’s valuable to sit with the feeling rather than avoiding it or fighting it. It provides evidence that a feeling alone is not dangerous. Interoceptive work takes us to the next level. It’s proactive feeling. Instead…
Read MoreChanging behaviors is all about noticing what you tend to do in anxiety provoking situations and learning to do something different. The more you can learn to tolerate anxiety provoking situations without avoiding or running from them, the less anxious you’ll be.…
Read MoreHave you ever felt anxious and you have no idea why? You’re not alone in that. You may have dug around trying to figure out why you feel anxious and maybe you couldn’t identify it. Here’s the thing, you don’t have to behave or define thoughts on how you feel. Imagine if you decided whenever…
Read MoreTo change your thoughts, you need to identify automatic thoughts and core beliefs. An automatic thought is what you say or think automatically like “that bee is going to sting me”. That thought alone doesn’t inevitably lead to anxious feelings and avoidance behaviors. You need to break your thought down and figure out what…
Read MoreIn a previous post we talked about the 3-Component Model which explains how your thoughts-feelings-behaviors work together to increase anxiety. The next few posts are about actively addressing the three components to help lessen anxiety. That means going all…
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